Relationships Week Blog…

It’s Relationship Week and despite being a chatterbox and a therapist I’m going to tell you that sometimes talking isn’t enough – and sometimes it’s even too much!  One of the things that lockdown and continued social distancing has shown us is how important touch is, that human beings need more than words, that there’s things that Zoom can’t provide.

How can you connect with your loved ones physically today? Sometimes things come easily like hugging and sex…and sometimes they don’t. But there are other ways, even across physical distance, that we can communicate and bond in shared bodily experience. A teenager that may not want a parental cuddle may be up for a dance-off in the living room together, or a game of frisbee in a park.  A far away relative may be able to share a yoga video online together so you can breathe in sync, or cook the same meal together. A friend you go on a socially distanced walk with can still touch the bark of a beech tree together, or dip hands in a river. A partner exhausted from work may want a silent foot massage more than to talk it through.

Touch boosts the immune system, lowers stress and strengthens our attachment to each other: Let’s Get Physical! 

Tabitha

Therapist

Disclaimer: This is a personal blog and any views or opinions represented in this blog are personal and belong solely to the blog owner and do not represent those of Relate Bradford.

Relationships with having Autism…

Relationships Week 2020 #RelationshipRocks

This is my thoughts on relationships with Autism, as someone who has Autism.

Types of relationships

This is just to name a few:

  • Friendships
  • Toxic
  • Open
  • Unhappy
  • Long distance
  • Complicated

Do people with Autism find it far harder to date, or form relationships?

Adults with Autism do struggle with creating and maintaining relationships, as a lot of people struggle with turn taking, so forming relationships is hard. Dating is hard as well, people don’t know what Autism is and what types they are, but over the years it’s become more known to the world with how many children/adults who have been diagnosed with some type of Autism.

These are some quotes that people have said:

“I was always under the impression that if you didn’t understand something then ask for it to be reworded in a way it makes sense to them.”

Anon

“We can date people who aren’t on the autism spectrum.”

Anon

“If you go online before our date and find out we have Autism, don’t jump to conclusions.”

Anon

“If you’re shocked that we have Autism, don’t be.”

Anon

“Just because we may want to be by ourselves at times, doesn’t mean that we don’t care about you.”

Anon

Feeling emotions

“Many on the spectrum can feel emotions and empathy for others, more often than not, they just have difficulty identifying them.”

Love and affection

Autism Spectrum Disorder often experience difficulties understanding and expressing emotions. Especially emotions as confusing such as love.

Relationship and Autism

Initiating and maintaining a romantic relationship, and many other social relationships require the ability to interact socially, have good communications skills as well as having the ability to take the perspective of others – areas of which individuals on the spectrum often struggle with.

“Social relationships are an essential factor of quality of life for people with as well as without a diagnosis.”

Achieving a successful relationship

In order to achieve a successful relationship, that individuals on the spectrum both understands and respects themselves, as well as understands their own need, in order to see how they relate to others and achieve independence

“The ability to create friendships will improve self-esteem and greater maturity, reduce teasing or bullying, encourage teamwork abilities for both successful employment as well as laying the foundations for adult relationships.”

Michael
https://www.relate.org.uk/about-us/media-centre/videos/relationships-week-2020

Blog by Michael

Disclaimer: This is a personal blog and any views or opinions represented in this blog are personal and belong solely to the blog owner and do not represent those of Relate Bradford.