- Acknowledge being overwhelmed – know that it will pass, that it is temporary, and that it does not define you. It is not permanent. Try to objectify the situation.
- Compartmentalise your mental load; do you need to attend that meeting, read that email, do that research? What is enough?
- Remind yourself that mistakes and setbacks are part of living. People survive them and so will you.
- Put your energies where you have most impact; get to know the difference between what you can and what you can’t change.
- Choose your response. Cognitively, deliberately, knowingly, adjust your response from despair.
- Take small steps towards change.
- Whatever it is, GIVE IT A GO!
- Take detachment breaks from your circumstances. Move away from them by reading, watching something, exercising, talking about something else with someone. It will be less stuck when you look again.
- Show yourself compassion.
- Keep that positive image of your future; research shows that those people who keep a healthy visualization are more successful.
Tamara
Clinical Supervisor, Relate Bradford
Disclaimer: This is a personal blog and any views or opinions represented in this blog are personal and belong solely to the blog owner and do not represent those of Relate Bradford.
